'Maturity is a psychological term used to indicate how a person responds to the circumstances or environment in an appropriate and adaptive manner. Maturity also encompasses being aware of the correct time and place to behave and knowing when to act appropriately, according to the situation'
as we grow older, we face a lot of drama in our lives. be it with family, colleagues, friends, family and even your own partner. i think maturity that makes us still living with each other even though sometimes we drive each other mad. its how we handle the situation.
there's a line in one of khabir bathia's films that said 'kadang-kadang orang yg paling kt sayang lah org yg paling susah kt nk sayang'. remember in CINTA, where the sister dealing with her stubborn lil brother who always wants his own way but at the same time she too has her own weakness of having an affair with someone's husband even though she's not happy. her lil brother ask her to end it but she didn't want to and that makes her stubborn too.
i think the line is true. org yg paling kt sayang lagi susah kt nk sayang.
the closer we are to each other, the deeper we know about each other's attitudes. the more we care about each other, the more we want to make things right for them and that makes it tougher.
i have a bunch of close friends, both my schoolfrens and my uni frens. everyone has their own good and bad attitudes. even myself(mengaku :P). sometimes the bad attitude annoys me so much that it pisses me off. most of the time i always want to just tegur and say directly how crappy their attitude is but then they got too emotional hence affecting the friendship. so because i terlebih caring and value the friendship i keep silence or try to talk to them nicely. *sigh* see how hard it is?
but that is what i call maturity i guess. its how we handle the situation. forgive and forget. keep in mind positive thoughts jela. same goes with the family. we fight with each other, we're mad at each other. but in the end things worked out well. i just dont get some ppl make something a big deal for them sampai sanggup buang or affect a relationship just for a stupid small matter thing. that's not mature.
back to the CINTA story, what i want to relate is that sometimes we tend to look at other ppl's bad attitude but we dont realize we have the same exact attitude, sometimes even worse!(this is a reminder for me too). so whenever we hate someone or judge someone, try to look back at ourself again ( yeah i shud do this too).
for me and syib, we kinda fight a lot more than we used to since we got engaged. tapi nasib baiklah matang sket tak make it worse and handle it nicely. i think this is a training for ourselves in the future. if we cannot deal with each other now, how can we deal with each other dh kawin nnti. problems mmg akan ade in any relationship or worse in marriage. again, its how we handle the situation and accepts each other's good and bad attitudes.
kalau nak asyik ikut our way je mmg susah lah. things will not always go our way. relationships are always about give and take. tak kesahlah what kind of relationship.
as we grow older, we face a lot of drama in our lives. be it with family, colleagues, friends, family and even your own partner. i think maturity that makes us still living with each other even though sometimes we drive each other mad. its how we handle the situation.
there's a line in one of khabir bathia's films that said 'kadang-kadang orang yg paling kt sayang lah org yg paling susah kt nk sayang'. remember in CINTA, where the sister dealing with her stubborn lil brother who always wants his own way but at the same time she too has her own weakness of having an affair with someone's husband even though she's not happy. her lil brother ask her to end it but she didn't want to and that makes her stubborn too.
i think the line is true. org yg paling kt sayang lagi susah kt nk sayang.
the closer we are to each other, the deeper we know about each other's attitudes. the more we care about each other, the more we want to make things right for them and that makes it tougher.
i have a bunch of close friends, both my schoolfrens and my uni frens. everyone has their own good and bad attitudes. even myself(mengaku :P). sometimes the bad attitude annoys me so much that it pisses me off. most of the time i always want to just tegur and say directly how crappy their attitude is but then they got too emotional hence affecting the friendship. so because i terlebih caring and value the friendship i keep silence or try to talk to them nicely. *sigh* see how hard it is?
but that is what i call maturity i guess. its how we handle the situation. forgive and forget. keep in mind positive thoughts jela. same goes with the family. we fight with each other, we're mad at each other. but in the end things worked out well. i just dont get some ppl make something a big deal for them sampai sanggup buang or affect a relationship just for a stupid small matter thing. that's not mature.
back to the CINTA story, what i want to relate is that sometimes we tend to look at other ppl's bad attitude but we dont realize we have the same exact attitude, sometimes even worse!(this is a reminder for me too). so whenever we hate someone or judge someone, try to look back at ourself again ( yeah i shud do this too).
for me and syib, we kinda fight a lot more than we used to since we got engaged. tapi nasib baiklah matang sket tak make it worse and handle it nicely. i think this is a training for ourselves in the future. if we cannot deal with each other now, how can we deal with each other dh kawin nnti. problems mmg akan ade in any relationship or worse in marriage. again, its how we handle the situation and accepts each other's good and bad attitudes.
kalau nak asyik ikut our way je mmg susah lah. things will not always go our way. relationships are always about give and take. tak kesahlah what kind of relationship.
